A Seaman’s Wife Speaks Up

I rave, rant, speak, sigh…. letting the world know the thoughts that run loose inside my mind. This seaman’s wife just wants to speak up!

I Am A Crab…And (Not) Proud To Be One! December 11, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — islander0413 @ 12:30 pm
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Sitting alone on my desk yet in the company of my students, I got me into thinking mode again — it seems the contemplative mood has been going on for days now. Something not too ordinary for me because I don’t consider myself the most contemplative person unless things which call for contemplation (sounds like Flor Contemplacion though, hehe) crop up. Though it’s a bit foolish to admit that this ongoing blogging saga has affected me even in my reverie (ahem…lalim noon, ah!)…I am not ashamed to admit that I am, indeed affected…because you know the answer as to why I am affected. (Hayaan nyo na lang kasi ako…)


Yahoo 360 is a virtual community where we are connected with people through words…and then, if circumstances allow, enable us to build lasting friendships in the real world. I have just mentioned that it is a community where words are used as medium of communication (eh, sa true to life, words pa din eh…labo mo!) — words that are vicious, friendly, loving, endearing, nurturing, hateful, spiteful, sarcastic —basta words, yon na yun! It is true that the pen — no, the keyboard — is mightier than the sword.


Most of us are aware that the whole world roams with us in this virtual community. We know that when we play, whether we play slyly, honestly or any way we do, the world sits in the sidelines watching us play our game. Most of us also know that a lot of us in this community have been wanting to address the issue of malice, scandals and intrigues — or at least prevent them from growing into gigantic proportions — before everything is dragged into the real arena —too far from the supposed anonymity and safety of the virtual realm. I guess, it’s time for these issues to be addressed to protect innocent lives and families who will undoubtedly be dragged into the murky limelight.

Venting out, we claim, is not all evil. I agree. After all, we only reacted to a certain stimuli. Venting isn’t bad. I do it every once in a while to let off steam…and hopefully get rid of negative energy (which successfully puts in more negative energy by the way).Vent out … but when venting out is already spiced with malice and is motivated by personal vendetta, I guess it’s time to reassess if the motivating factor for venting out is still legitimate and safe. Because sooner or later, whether each person is aware or not, when innocent lives have been jeopardised, demoralized and unwillingly dragged into the tangled web caused by what innocently started as a careless stroke of the pen and takes into real life actions in a hungry quest for revenge, everything will be too late. Then the sharing, the friendship which originally started out as fun becomes a nightmare.


I don’t plead innocent — I am a big liar if I say so. I haven’t been idly watching by the sidelines while all the games have been played. I am the biggest hypocrite if I say I haven’t taken part in making this virtual community of Filipinas and foreigners what it has become at present. And if everyon’e honest enough…the Filipinas concerned at least, they would admit that they have, in one way or another, fanned the fire of malice and hatred until it has blown into what it has become now. Fine, dear friends and fellow Filipinas, with a little help from each and everyone of us, we just have succeeded in showing the world just how much percentage of the CRAB we have in us. Doesn’t everyone deserve a hearty congratulations for that? And yet we point an accusing finger toward another crab for supposedly dragging us down when in fact, in all honesty, it was our own crabby clumsiness which caused us to slide from our “vantage point” perch in the comfortable container where we have been placed.


And I tell you, intelligent crabs like moi, the world is watching the ongoing prime time show with such gusto — I would even bet my singkong duling that they have their “manok” — the one whom they have groomed in their minds to emerge the victor. But why am I mentioning manok when we are supposedly talking about the crabs that we have proven ourselves to be — the concerned Filipinas of Yahoo 360…and that includes yours truly. If you want a standard bearer for us, crabs, I am in for a deal., hehe. O, walang hintuturong ipakita, ha…kakagatin ko ‘yan. Sabi nga ni Hitler (pero si Hitler nga ba ‘yon?), the moment you point a finger to someone, three fingers point back at you.. Ayan, nasama pati si Hitler. Baka pagkatapos nito, hindi lang mga galunggong, este crabs pala ang papapak sa ‘kin. Baka kako ma infect na ako ng German measles. “Sensya na. Biro lang po para gumaan naman ng konti ang mood…medyo mabigat kasi ang tira ko today, eh.


But… hindi pa ako tapos. Malayo pa ang final period so, kuha ka muna ng miryende, hane…nang hindi mangisay sa gutom.


To say peace and let bygones be bygones is nothing but hypocrisy at this point. If, an I’m sorry at this time is too difficult to speak…nakakabikig sa lalamunan — or too laborious to type kasi biglang napilay (???) ang hintuturo mo sa katataype (o sa kaka-pin point?), it is understandable. Hearts have been broken, relationships have been severed. Too many people haven’t had a peaceful sleep since this started. ‘Yung iba nga, ilang beses nang nagpalit ng reseta para sa alta presyon…feel nyo matigok na kayo? It’s never easy to let bygones be bygones and dismiss everything as water under the bridge. But if everyone’s mind is opened a bit wider — just anough to let me and my humble opinion in — (bakeet, sino ka vahhh?) they would agree with me when I say we can never resolve this issue unless someone shouts “CEASEFIRE!”. Stop the hurling of hurting words to and fro…kasi me nabubukol nang wala namang kinalaman. I could summarize what I am trying to say in this paragraph in the language of one year old kids: WAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!! (Literal translation: Ang gugulo ninyo. Kung ‘di kayo titigil, pag-uuntugin ko’ng ulo ninyo!)


Silence, at this point, is indeed golden. I have an idea ngayon kung bakit mas mainam ang buhay ng bulag, ng pipi at ng bingi — walang pakialam sa mundo ‘ika nga. But don’t get me wrong. I am not giving any of my senses up…maybe in a hundred years, I would entertain the idea.


Kidding aside, my fellow Filipinas, where will this journey of spite and hatred end? And when? Are we going to watch in the sidelines and make our bet too? Why don’t we make a wee bit of difference? At alam kong alam mo kung ano ang magagawa mo, kapwa ko Pinay.


I am writing this in an attempt to stop — to put a period — to the saga. I know it won’t be easy because right now, the most popular keys in the kayboard are &*%$#@!)(_+…. But in time, in God’s perfect time, may pipindot din sa (.)… period ‘yan, tange… kala mo boob?


And with everything being said, I now put in my final period.

 

The Entertainer December 10, 2008

Filed under: Uncategorized — islander0413 @ 12:22 pm
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I am sorry if instead of coming over here to be entertained, you will find the lady of the house experiencing some “not so good” moments lately. For someone who tries to put laughter into everyone’s lives each day even when she hurts inside, for someone who opens up as much as I can, I found myself needing a good dose of much needed laughter—real, hearty laughter lately. And I have hidden MY TRUE FEELINGS behind the pictures I am posting on my page because it’s much safer that way. But I feel that although they are a part of me, they are not me; just something I do or something I have to do because … just because.


I am a bit lost and I feel like living in a world where nothing but hypocrisy exists; that everything is but a facade…and i have to be careful in dealing with everything because they might cause me to become even more lost, even more hurt , even more broken than i already am…


I have simply been myself. Can’t they see that? I have simply been doing things in the way I know how. Does it have to be pretense every time I express myself? Does anyone ever get tired of seeing only the painted front and never take a glimpse of the decaying backside? Do I have to do things halfheartedly so I won’t be misunderstood of being too arrogant?


I am not perfect nor do I claim to be one. But who is? Can anyone alive ever honestly claim perfection without sabotaging his relationship with the One and Only True Perfect Being which is God Himself? I am a human being with a lot of flaws and I am not ashamed of those flaws…the bad attitudes, the bad moods, the scars, the bulges, everything! And I don’t care about them because they are but secondary compared to what’s inside me… but I have often been misunderstood for my compassion. I have been called a show off for pointing out something that needs to be done and changed. I have been called arrogant because I feel the need to assert myself. Damn them! Do I have to hide myself inside the safe shell of indifference so I will not be affected ever again by the negative things I hear? But will my life ever find meaning if I live a life alien to me for conformity’s sake?


If I am not free to express myself, if I can not let into the light of day what I so fervently believe in, because of the fear that I am to be judged unfairly, will my world ever be the peaceful world I dream it to be? The answer, my heart tells me, is NO! A big NO!


Why should I care what negative things people say? Why should I cease being myself just so I could create a positive impression? Oh, heck! I am not in for the pretense. I am simply being myself and they have only two choices: take me or drop me off like the hot potato! And if those jerks do not like what I am doing and judge me unfairly, well, I’m beyond caring. I might get emotionally affected, but I have long ago decided never to let people’s negativity towards me affect myself and my views on life…


And in the end, it is not what people see in me or say about me when they interact with me that matters…it’s what GOD sees inside my heart. Right now, I am filled with hurts, disappointments and all those things. But I have great faith In God to know that He is allowing these things to happen to me because He has great faith in me….


These lines from s book I have read reflect what I am feeling best:


“GOD has dealt with me this way. Loving me more than any harpist loves his harp. He finds me nothing but harsh, discordant sounds. He plucks my heartstrings with torturing anguish. Tenderly leaning over me, He strikes the strings and listens. Hearing only a harsh murmur, He strikes me again. His heart bleeds for me when He anxiously waits to hear the strain, “Not my will, but yours be done.” And he will never cease from striking the strings of my heart until my humbled and disciplined soul blends with all pure and eternal harmonies of His own being…”


This feeling doesn’t last, believe me. And whenever I feel this way, I only run to the Best Friend I have known to be the most faithful throughout the ages… GOD.


He knows what caused me to feel this way, He has allowed these things to happen to me for His own Divine Plan…and all I ever have to do is to look up to Him in faith, not in understanding, because there are many things I will never understand. Only my Faith can lead me toward the answers…

 

 
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